Spiritual Psychotherapy: The Infinite Meaning of Symptoms
Spiritual Psychotherapy occurs when you address yourself not simply as a social/bodily ego or a reactive stimulus-response machine, but as an infinite spiritual being, a god in the disguise of a human body and personality,who has, through forgetfulness and mis-imagination, created a flawed and incomplete self-image and worldview, and is now suffering the pain of some form of unconscious symptomatic self-victimization.
Furthermore, this symptomatic self-victimization is understood as an invitation by the Creator of this intelligent, compassionate, purposeful universe to transcend our temptation to repress or self-medicate our pain, and rather to inquire and look within it for the path to wholeness. This inquiring and inward- looking process of self-realization is called spiritual psychotherapy.
Sight is our outward-looking conditioned ego story which results in the victim experience and leads to symptom formation. Vision is our inward-looking unconditioned non-story which results in true spiritual knowledge and to the transformation of our symptoms.
Spiritual Psychotherapy addresses the suffering seeker as an infinite spiritual being in a finite physical body and a social-psychological personality system. Spiritual Psychotherapy seeks to help the seeker identify the true meaning of their symptoms and suffering, and to erase the main cause thereof. The seeker, however, unconsciously addresses himself/herself and the world through the eyes of victimization.
Jesus is perhaps the best model for spiritual psychotherapy since his entire effort was devoted to the release of the human being through forgiveness from the experience of self-victimization.
“Poor Me” and “Ain’t it Awful” are the two major games people play in relationships which set the stage for suffering and symptoms. The victim experience is held in place by three beliefs (judgments): separateness, lack and entrapment. These three assumptions form the seeker’s psychological story about the self and the world. This seemingly true story is illusory, dualistic, limiting, fear-driven and toxic. Any religion, philosophy, science, medicine, politic or psychotherapy which unwittingly supports this dualistic story about human identity is, to that degree, unhealthy and sick in its approach to diagnosis and treatment of the human condition.
Victim symptoms arise because ultimately we ignore our spirituality and divinity. The anxiety which arises from this ignorance drives the compulsive search for comfort and control, but such solutions cannot be found within the story, but only as we awaken from such dramas. The techniques of Spiritual Psychotherapy are techniques of awakening through shock, disillusionment, letting go, and a radically penetrating awareness of the difference between our story and the truth. Spiritual Psychotherapy teaches and demonstrates the awareness that there are only two processes in life: fear and love, and that one of them is not real. It is the simplicity of this awareness which cuts through mis-diagnosis and mis-treatment and lays bare the purpose of all symptoms and suffering, which is Self-realization.
Are We Still Stuck in Our Old Theory Box?
It is the theory which decides what we can observe
While it is true that we are moving into a new paradigm in the 21st century, in many ways psychological and religious thinking is still stuck in an old theory box, especially in the area of diagnosis. Even though Jesus brought us A Course in Miracles in the 70’s to address this theory dilemma, psychotherapy is still floundering in the same de-energized story as the culture in general. . Spiritual Psychotherapy is an attempt to address this story deadlock in a direct and forthright manner that challenges both religion and psychology to take a calculated leap into the rich territory of infinite imagination.
The final frontier is not outer space, but the human imagination
Infinity theory is an an-depth inquiry into this stuckness, particularly about diagnosis. Diagnosis is not an armchair speculative matter. Everyone self-diagnoses his problems on a daily basis and prescribes his self-medicating solutions, and experiences the consequences therefrom. Spiritual Psychotherapy is a much a challenge to the patient as to the doctor. Both patients and doctors assume they know what causes symptoms, but according to my research this is questionable. It has been my experience that we don’t know what causes our symptoms and that we treat the assumed cause with the wrong medicine. A Course in Miracles says that all illness is mental. While cognitive therapy has made some important strides in this direction, there is still a spiritual leap ahead that has rarely been taken.
The Imprisoned Splendor:
Truth is within ourselves; it takes no rise
From outward things, whate’re you may believe.
There is an inmost centre in us all,
Where truth abides in fullness; and around,
Wall upon wall, the gross flesh hems it in,
This perfect, clear perception;which is truth.
A baffling and perverting carnal mesh
Binds it, and makes all error; and, to KNOW,
Rather consists in opening out a way
Whence the imprisoned splendor may escape,
Than in effecting entry for a light
Supposed to be without.
Spiritual Psychotherapy is a revolutionary new psychotherapy system, which if you study and apply it to yourself, can be mastered in about two years. The infinite meaning of symptoms requires a total re-orientation to your spirituality and psychological/social dilemmas. If you are satisfied with your current pace, and the consequences thereof, this approach may not be of sustained interest for you at this time. This radical awareness has to be practiced on a moment-by-moment basis or else the victimization story will continue to dominate consciousness. Waking up from our hypnotic cultural conditioning is life’s greatest adventure. Nothing else is seriously worth your time. “Seek ye first the kingdom of God” is no mere shibboleth. This kingdom is your home and your true nature. The ego story about our low self-esteem identity is a necessary experience on the path to radical awakening to our infinite potential.
Do what you will, this life’s a fiction, and is made up of contradiction.
The key identity question for all seekers: “Am I a stressed out victim with an impossible dream or an infinite spiritual being with a flawed story?”
The Contributions of Neville Goddard to Infinity Theory
Neville Goddard is perhaps one of the great mystics of all times. He spent his entire adult life studying the Bible and Blake. His mystical vision was supported by personal experiences by which he re-wrote the meaning of scripture.
His view was that all scripture is about you, and that eventually each individual will be re-born into the initiatory experiences of Jesus Christ. He believed that Jesus Christ is symbolically and literally every man and woman and that in due time we will all actually re-live his life in our own unique manner.
Jesus Christ was the final revelation of human nature to which all of history points and in which all of history is fulfilled.
The nature of Jesus Christ is the nature of humanity, and that nature is “our own wonderful human imagination.”
For a period of over 30 years, Neville lectured regularly in New York, Los Angeles and San Francisco to huge audiences expounding the Law and the Promise.
The Law is that by the deliberate and conscious use of imagination the individual can manifest what he intends in life.
The Promise is that through the constant use of the Law and of our mystical ability, the truth of our divine identity as Jesus Christ will be revealed to us in our visions and in our life experience.
To Neville the scriptures are living personal revelations about human nature, each character representing our own struggles.
Neville incorporated the insights of William Blake into a metaphysics for modern man.
Infinity Theory builds upon the contributions of Blake and Neville to demonstrate the mystical understanding of human nature for the New Humanity.
Infinite imagination is the integrating factor in Infinity Theory, which finds its roots in the Bible, in Blake and in Neville, and is implicit in many modern psychological and theological theories.
“According to the Scriptures, we sleep with Adam and wake with Christ. That is, we sleep collectively and wake individually.”
“You are imagination.”
“The story of life is all about God. Everything in the world is God. Behind the mask called you is God. I am looking only at Good masked as I look at you. Behind that mask is God. And the whole thing is done by God to himself.”
“Whoever changes his limited self-concept changes the world in which he lives.”
The Good News
As mentioned earlier, everyone has their own version of good news or gospel; everyone has their own idea of the solutions to life’s problems.
Everyone has some kind of self-rescue, ego gospel, or good news. I’ll win the lottery, I’ll find my lover, I’ll become accepted or famous, I’ll prove myself, I’ll be good, I’ll work hard to survive, I’ll get ahead, I’ll be clever, I’ll take what I’m entitled to, I’ll suffer virtuously, I’ll get even, etc.
The Gospel According to Neville is a gospel of revelation and re-interpretation of the Scriptures.
Neville holds that the Scriptures will be fulfilled by every person.
The Judeo-Christian Scriptures are sacred history but not secular history.
They were written by mystics for the mystical man to understand. Every man is, in his true nature, a mystic. Mystical understanding could not be expected until “that age” had come, which is now.
The entire Bible is about who man is.
The Bible cannot be understood apart from one’s own personal experience.
Neville had numerous revelation experiences which led him to re-interpret the entire Scripture in the light of these experiences.
Neville is no doubt one of the world’s greatest mystics and metaphysicians.
He gathers up and re-interprets the entire history of mystical and metaphysical understanding in a new and radical way. His teaching is an absolutely radical, personal, and universal understanding.
Neville and the Bible
Neville read the Bible seven days a week from his youth until his death, and he has completely devoured the works of William Blake as a key to the understanding of the scriptures.
He understood that every story, every word and every line in the Bible is about you and I.
At the same time, what the Bible means is hidden from the eyes of the reader in a great mystery.
While the Bible appears to be an external account based upon objective events, people and human reason, it is not.
The Bible is an account of how God became man in order than man might become God.
The Bible is about God in man and God as man.
Man is, like God, imagination. Every act of man and God is a conjoint imaginal act.
The outer phenomenal world is an exact reflection of imagination.
Jesus Christ is the central figure of the entire Bible, and Jesus Christ is man’s true identity.
Jesus Christ and God are one, and man is unconsciously one with Jesus Christ and God.
Every human being will have the entire experience of Jesus Christ in his or her own unique way in due time.
Life and Death
When a person dies, he is either restored or resurrected. A person is restored when he dies if he has not completed the work of becoming his own unique expression of the Jesus Christ pattern, and he takes up that work just where he left off at the time of death, except that it is in another world and he is around 20 years of age.
A person is resurrected when God has awakened in him and he has been “born from above”. Thus everyone has one birth from below, the birth from woman, and one birth from above, the birth from God.
Everyone will experience both births. God will not be defeated. God actualizes himself in every person in a unique individualized way. God is not and cannot be separated from man in any way. God is man. God is asleep in man and as man, and dreams this world into existence. All of man’s suffering is a necessary stage in awakening.
God designs, wills, experiences and uses human suffering in this limited, weak, mortal notion of selfhood, in order to awaken us to our true nature, which is immortality, godhood, Jesus Christhood.
Man can begin right now to learn of his divinity by exercising his imagination deliberately and precisely.
Neville demonstrated to audiences in New York and Los Angeles over a period of forty years that any person can create what he wants by imagining it into existence.
These imaginal activities are to be guided by love and by the golden rule. Anything which is totally and thoroughly believed and imagined by the individual, for himself or for another, is possible and is a necessary part of awakening.
For such total belief to work, the person must set aside his ordinary way of looking at the world through the five senses and reason, and imagine from the completed state of his wish. He sets aside the “factual” state and enters into the “imagined state.”
The imagined state then must and does harden into fact. This experience proves that man at his core is imagination, and that imagination is Jesus Christ in action.
Neville demonstrated through all of his books and lectures covering a forty year period that the Bible and William Blake’s works support and illustrate this experience that man is imagination and that in this wonderful human imagination is man’s oneness with God and his identity with Jesus Christ.
Spiritual Psychotherapy builds upon the discoveries of Neville by developing his revelations into a full-blown psychological and metaphysical understanding of symptoms.
My books are written based upon my own experience along with a parallel unfolding and expansion of the meaning of Neville’s work to me.
Without the work of Blake and Neville, this work could not have been done.
The divinity of man is not for the weak-minded, but requires a total radical metanoia or reversal.
Nothing remains the same, nothing.
Not one single human assumption, belief or common sense value is left undisturbed.
This understanding revolutionizes and consumes your entire consciousness twenty-four hours a day. You will have to live with, renovate, revision and transform every single thought pattern in your entire unconscious data base in order to even make a judgment about this truth.
See Neville, Immortal Man. 1977. Devorss. Also The Power of Awareness. 1952. Devorss. Also Your Faith is Your Fortune, Resurrection, Awakened Imagination,Seedtime and Harvest, The Law and The Promise.
If You Didn’t Get it, Why not?
The big question regarding your last life crisis is: Did you get it? Why not?
The important question for your last therapy attempt to deal with anxiety is: Did you get it? Why not?
If all you got was relief from the last time you unsuccessfully manipulated something or someone, then you didn’t get it.
If all you did was recover from the consequences of the last time you didn’t get it, you didn’t get it.
If you are still recurrently anxious, sick or depressed, you didn’t get it
If you got your way, you didn’t get it.
If your survival strategy worked, you didn’t get it
If you won the power struggle, you didn’t get it
If you are settling for less, you don’t get it
If you felt you were the most clever, you didn’t get it
If you just made some kind of New Year’s resolutions, you didn’t get it
If you are just trying harder, you didn’t get it
If you are still after approval and appreciation, you didn’t get it
If life is still going up and down, you didn’t get it
If you still think marriage or divorce will fix it, you didn’t get it
If you are still looking for the man or woman of your dreams, you didn’t get it
If you think a better job is going to do it for you, you didn’t get it
If all you did was confess your crime and serve your sentence, you didn’t get it
If all you did was prove you’re right, you didn’t get it
If all you did was win the lottery, you didn’t get it
If all you did was score, you didn’t get it
If all you won was a gold medal at some Olympic contest, you didn’t get it, only a symbol of it.
If you are up or down because your team or political party won or lost, you didn’t get it
If you don’t 100% love reality yet, you don’t get it
If you are still championing some religious, political or soap box cause, you haven’t gotten it
If you still have an axe to grind, you didn’t get it
If you are not actively investigating your thinking, you won’t get it
If you think you know how things should be, you haven’t gotten it yet
If you are trying to deny, prevent or avoid the recurrence of something painful in your life, you won’t get it
If you think there is something to resist or conquer, you won’t get it
If you are still waiting for your luck to change, you won’t get it
If you think your past or future holds the` key to success, you won’t get it
If all you did was get out of the dog house after your last fight, you didn’t get it.
If you really think circumstance have power over you, you won’t get it
If you think something or someone is making you a victim, you didn’t get it
If you didn’t get it, its not because of stupidity, but of ignorance
If you didn’t get it, it is because you think you are merely human
If you think you can cure anxiety with pills or distraction, you won’t get it
If you think anxiety is a problem or a coincidence, you won’t get it
If you didn’t get it, it is just because you think you don’t have time or the intelligence to try to understand why you didn’t get it
If you think something else is more important than getting it, you won’t get it.
If you are mad at me for saying you didn’t get it, that is a sure sign you don’t get it
If you haven’t gotten it, it is because you don’t know where it is
If you didn’t get it, it is because you blamed the world and God for your sense of lack
If you didn’t get it, it is because it went by too fast to see it
If you didn’t get it, it is because you thought you didn’t have it and you have to chase after it.
If you didn’t get it, it isn’t too late, everyone has to get it sooner or later
If you don’t know what It is yet, maybe it’s time to find out.
If you want it bad enough to ask, I will join you in making sure you get it
What will it cost you? Your habitual way of thinking
What will it pay you? Everything you ever wanted
If you didn’t get it yet, you will!
Listen to the way Rumi puts it:
COME, whoever you are
“Ho, everyone who thirsts, come to the waters. And you who have no money, come, buy and eat. Come, buy wine and milk. Without money and without cost. Why do you want to spend money for what is not bread, and your wages for what does not satisfy? Listen carefully to me, and eat what is good, and delight yourself in abundance. Incline your ear and come to me. Listen, that you may live.”
Its Ok if you didn’t get it yet, we are all involved in the process of getting it, either unconsciously or consciously.
If you think you are unhappy because you haven’t felt totally accepted, loved or appreciated, you just didn’t get it yet.
If you don’t already have it somewhere, how could you possibly get it?
If you think you’ve got it, you haven’t
Forgetting (discounting) your dreams didn’t help you to get it
If you still think that any experience in your life doesn’t have a beneficial purpose and cause, you still don’t get it
If you haven’t found the meaning and purpose of your last crisis (large or small), you may not be aware there is anything to get
If you think there is anything you can satisfactorily control besides your thinking, you haven’t got it yet.
If you are still justifying your behavior and defending your beliefs, you won’t get it.
If you are still telling yourself the story that you are alone, lacking or trapped, you didn’t get it
If you think that you can get the results you want without questioning your story, you won’t get it
If you think that God is out there somewhere, you aren’t here either
If you didn’t get it yet, are you ready to ask?
If you still think that money, sex or some substance will substitute for IT, you are kidding yourself
If you think dieting, exercise or physical exercise will do it, good luck!
If you think suicide or homicide will erase the pain of not getting it, you in for a surprise
If you think that accusing or punishing others for not giving you what you want will get it for you, you don’t get it
If you think that trying to rescue people will save you from the pain of not knowing the truth about yourself, you haven’t got it.
If you think you know yourself already, you don’t get it
If you think that changing your body’s conditions will be sufficient, you don’t get it yet
If you think that changing the world is possible, you are wasting your time
If you think will power will get it, why hasn’t it worked so far?
Where is the door to the lost treasure, the Holy Grail, the fountain of youth, the Shangri la, the kingdom of heaven, your peace of mind? Until you ask about that, you are not even close to getting it.
If you wondered whether you got it, you didn’t
If you think getting it is anything besides a process of awakening, you didn’t get it.
When you do get it, it will be when it gets you
If you thought you didn’t get it, maybe that proves there is something to get
If you are not curious enough yet about the real cause of your anxiety and suffering, you’re not ready to get it
Everyone is here to get it, but the secret to getting it is hidden underneath all of the secrets that didn’t get it.
Getting it is realizing that everything you see, hear and believe is your story, including the world itself.
Unless you constantly and thoroughly question and investigate your story about reality and about yourself, you will never get it.
If and until you realize you are 99% brainwashed, you won’t get it
Nothing is as it seems, do you get it?
Can you get it if you didn’t do some particular crime or wrong that you were accused of and are being punished for? And suppose you are punishing someone else for a wrong they did or didn’t do, can you still get it?
If you think the past is a closed book and can’t be changed, you didn’t get it yet.
If you think you lost everything, you didn’t get it yet
If you think disappointment is the final word, you didn’t get it yet
If you think aging, suffering, sickness or death is the final word, you didn’t get it yet
If you wonder whether the good guys or the bad guys will win in the end, you didn’t get it yet
If you are waiting on Armageddon or the rapture, you didn’t get it yet
If you are waiting on your good, you didn’t get it yet
If you think the body is sick, you didn’t get it yet
If you think you can change someone else, you didn’t get it yet
If you think you can hurt someone else or that someone else can hurt you, you didn’t get it yet.
If you think someone can control you, you didn’t get it yet
If you think fear or its consequences are real, you don’t get it yet
If you think it is not okay not to get it, then you don’t get it
If you think I am being evasive or secretive about getting it, then you don’t get it
If you are still studying and scheming about how to make your usual strategy work, you don’t get it.
If you want to get it, you had better study why your strategy isn’t working rather that studying why it should be working.
The reason your strategy isn’t working is because it isn’t the truth, do you get it?
When you notice that your strategy doesn’t work over 50% of the time, and it doesn’t, why don’t you get it?
If you don’t understand why Plato said “Know thyself” you didn’t get it
If you think the Christ is irrelevant to getting it, you don’t get it
If you avoid yourself because you think you know yourself, you didn’t get it
If you are still ignoring the real cause of your anger, grief, depression, anxiety jealousy or boredom, you don’t get it
If you think victimizing others is going to un-victimize you, you didn’t get it
If you think rescuing others is going to un-victimize you, you didn’t get it
If you still think anything can substitute for self-knowledge, you didn’t get it
If you think ignorance of the facts is bliss, you didn’t get it
I am never upset (mad, frustrated, bored, depressed, argumentative, impulsive, acting out, judgmental, manipulative, or defensive) for the reason I think. Do you get that?
If you think you are superior or inferior, then you didn’t get it.
If you think building up your self esteem will get it, you don’t get it.
If you don’t ask much, you don’t get much, get it?
If you think that there is anything else as important in life as getting it, you don’t get it.
It is impossible for a man to learn what he thinks he already knows.
The eye sees only what the mind is prepared to comprehend.
The first step towards knowledge is to know that we are ignorant.
Thomas H. Huxley:
Sit down before fact as a little child, be prepared to give up every preconceived notion, follow humbly wherever or whatever abysses nature leads, or you will learn nothing.
William Shakespeare :
Go to your bosom: Knock there, and ask your heart what it doth know… Love all, trust a few… To thine own self be true, and it must follow, as the night the day, thou canst not then be false to any man.
Ralph Waldo Emerson :
Great are they who see that spiritual is stronger than any material force, that thoughts rule the world.
The Power of Imagination
What would the practice of medicine, science, religion, psychotherapy, or life itself be like if we understood even a glimmer of the power of imagination? If you read and understand even a smidging of what is said here, your life will never be the same again. Happy reading!
The man who has no imagination has no wings.
When you stop having dreams and ideals — well, you might as well stop altogether.
Act as if you have already achieved your goal and it is yours.
Imagination is the highest kite one can fly.
The human understanding is like a false mirror, which, receiving rays irregularly, distorts and discolors the nature of things by mingling its own nature with it.
To fly as fast as thought, to anywhere that is. He said, you must begin by knowing that you have already arrived.
Man is an imagining being.
The soul without imagination is what an observatory would be without a telescope.
Sentiment is the ripened fruit of fantasy.
Nevertheless, the consuming hunger of the uncritical mind for what it imagines to be certainty or finality impels it to feast upon shadows in the prevailing famine of substance.
The human imagination… has great difficulty in living strictly within the confines of a materialist practice or philosophy. It dreams, like a dog in its basket, of hares in the open.
The way we imagine ourselves to appear to another person is an essential element in our conception of ourselves. In other words, I am not what I think I am, and I am not what you think I am. I am what I think you think I am.
To me this world is all one continued vision of fancy or imagination, and I feel flattered when I am told so. What is it sets Homer, Virgil and Milton in so high a rank of art? Why is the Bible more entertaining and instructive than any other book? Is it not because they are addressed to the imagination, which is spiritual sensation, and but immediately to the understanding or reason?
What is now proved was only once imagined.
The human race is governed by its imagination.
Imagination rules the world.
By going over your day in imagination before you begin it, you can begin acting successfully at any moment.
To reduce the imagination to a state of slavery –even though it would mean the elimination of what is commonly called happiness –is to betray all sense of absolute justice within oneself. Imagination alone offers me some intimation of what can be.
The bridges that you cross before you come to them are over rivers that aren’t there.
Live out of your imagination instead of out of your memory.
Fortunately, somewhere between chance and mystery lies imagination, the only thing that protects our freedom, despite the fact that people keep trying to reduce it or kill it off altogether.
Imagination is a poor matter when it has to part company with understanding.
Not our logical faculty, but our imaginative one is king over us. I might say, priest and prophet to lead us to heaven-ward, or magician and wizard to lead us hellward.
If a child is to keep alive his inborn sense of wonder without any such gift from the fairies, he needs the companionship of at least one adult who can share it, rediscovering with him the joy, excitement, and mystery of the world we live in. Carson, Rachel
People can die of mere imagination.
The great successful men of the world have used their imaginations… they think ahead and create their mental picture, and then go to work materializing that picture in all its details, filling in here, adding a little there, altering this a bit and that a bit, but steadily building — steadily building.
Visualize this thing that you want, see it, feel it, believe in it. Make your mental blue print, and begin to build.
See the things you want as already yours. Think of them as yours, as belonging to you, as already in your possession.
Pictures help you to form the mental mold…
Make every thought, every fact, that comes into your mind pay you a profit. Make it work and produce for you. Think of things not as they are but as they might be. Don’t merely dream — but create!
I think my securities far outweigh my insecurities. I am not nearly as afraid of myself and my imagination as I used to be.
Only in men’s imagination does every truth find an effective and undeniable existence. Imagination, not invention, is the supreme master of art as of life.
The imaginations which people have of one another are the solid facts of society.
Death is the tyrant of the imagination.
When the imagination and will power are in conflict, are antagonistic, it is always the imagination which wins, without any exception.
Live out of your imagination, not your history.
There will come a time when images have all gone by and you will see you know not what they are. Images are symbolic and they stand for something else.
We are what and where we are because we have first imagined it.
I noticed an almost universal trait among Super Achievers, and it was what I call Sensory Goal Vision. These people knew what they wanted out of life, and they could sense it multidimensionally before they ever had it. They could not only see it, but also taste it, smell it, and imagine the sounds and emotions associated with it. They pre-lived it before they had it. And the sharp, sensory vision became a powerful driving force in their lives.
Nothing exists except atoms and empty space; everything else is opinion. Democritus
Faith is a fine invention
The formula “two and two make five” is not without its attractions.
The mind must see visual achievement of the purpose before action is initiated.
How reluctantly the mind consents to reality!
Imagination is everything. It is the preview of life’s coming attractions.
To know is nothing at all; to imagine is everything.
The most evident difference springs from the important part which is played in man by a relatively strong power of imagination and by the capacity to think, aided as it is by language and other symbolically devices.
Imagination is more important than knowledge. For knowledge is limited to all we now know and understand, while imagination embraces the entire world, and all there ever will be to know and understand.
In that way imagination and intelligence enter into our existence in the part of servants of the primary instincts.
What is the imagination? Only an arm or weapon of the interior energy; only the precursor of the reason.
Humankind cannot bear very much reality.
The quality of the imagination is to flow and not to freeze.
We live by our imagination, our admiration, and our sentiments.
Science does not know its debt to imagination.
There are no days in life so memorable as those which vibrate to some stroke of the imagination.
Imagination is not a talent of some people but is the health of everyone.
Only those who attempt the absurd will achieve the impossible.
Hold a picture of yourself long and steadily enough in your mind’s eye and you will be drawn toward it. Picture yourself vividly as winning and that alone will contribute immeasurably to success. Great living starts with a picture, held in your imagination, of what you would like to do or be.
Image creates desire. You will what you imagine.
This is a work of fiction. All the characters in it, human and otherwise, are imaginary, excepting only certain of the fairy folk, whom it might be unwise to offend by casting doubts on their existence. Or lack thereof.
An error does not become truth by reason of multiplied propagation, nor does truth become error because nobody sees it.
Peak performers develop powerful mental images of the behavior that will lead to the desired results. They see in their mind’s eye the result they want, and the actions leading to it.
Imagination is the one weapon in the war against reality.
Reason can answer questions, but imagination has to ask them.
Through controlled inner talking from premises of fulfilled desire, seeming miracles are performed.
All happiness depends on the active voluntary use of imagination to construct and inwardly affirm that we are what we want to be. We match ourselves to our ideals by constantly remembering our aim and identifying ourselves with it. We fuse with our aims by frequently occupying the feeling of our wish fulfilled. It is the frequency, the habitual occupancy, that is the secret of success. The oftener we do it, the more natural it is. Fancy assembles. Continuous imagination fuses.
Any time we feel misunderstood, misused, neglected, suspicious, afraid, we are spending our thoughts and wasting out time. Whenever we assume the feeling of being what we want to be, we are investing.
Imagination travels according to habit. Imagination has choice, but it chooses according to habit. Awake or asleep, man’s imagination is constrained to follow certain definite patterns.
But after the choice is made and accepted so that it forms the individual’s habitual consciousness, then imagination manifests its infinite power and wisdom by moulding the outer sensuous world of becoming in the image of the habitual inner speech and actions of the individual.
A change of circumstance happens as a result of a change in your state of consciousness.”
All transformation begins with an intense, burning desire to be transformed. The first step in the “renewing of the mind” is desire. You must want to be different [and intend to be] before you can begin to change yourself. Then you must make your future dream a present fact. You do this by assuming the feeling of your wish fulfilled. By desiring to be other than what you are, you can create an ideal of the person you want to be and assume that you are already that person. If this assumption is persisted in until it becomes your dominant feeling, the attainment of your ideal is inevitable.
In giving birth to your ideal you must bear in mind that the methods of mental and spiritual knowledge are entirely different. This is a point that is truly understood by probably not more than one person in a million. You know a thing mentally by looking at it from the outside, by comparing it with other things, by analyzing it and defining it; [by thinking of it:] whereas you can know a thing spiritually only by becoming it, [only by thinking from it]. You must be the thing itself and not merely talk about it or look at it.
You must be conscious of being healthy if you are to know what health is. You must be conscious of being secure if you are to know what security is.
…prune your imagination by withdrawing your attention from all unlovely and destructive ideas and concentrating on the ideal you wish to attain.
You do this by imagining that you already are what you want to be – and already have what you want to have.
Whatever you may think of the question of free will, the truth is your experiences throughout your life are determined by your assumptions(imaginations) – whether conscious or unconscious. An assumption builds a bridge of incidents that lead inevitably to the fulfillment of itself.
What should be done between the assumption (imagination) of the wish fulfilled and its realization? Nothing. It is a delusion that, other than assuming the feeling of the wish fulfilled, you can do anything to aid the realization of your desire.
By assuming (imagining) the idea already to be a fact, it is converted into reality.
“I will be” is a confession that “I am not. ” The Father’s will is always “I AM.” Until you realize that YOU are the Father (there is only one I AM, and your infinite self is that I AM), your will is always “I will be. ” In the law of assumption your consciousness of being is the Father’s will. The mere wish without this consciousness is the “my will.”
If you change your concept of yourself, the events ahead of you in time are altered, but, thus altered, they form again a deterministic sequence starting from the moment of this changed concept.
Inasmuch as your assumption is creative and forms an atmosphere, your assumption, if it be a noble one, increases your assurance and helps you to reach a higher level of being.
It is impossible to do anything. You must be in order to do.
Few people have the imagination for reality.
Any change in the behavior of the inner self will result in corresponding outer changes.
My imagination makes me human and makes me a fool; it gives me all the world and exiles me from it.
The imagination is literally the workshop wherein are fashioned all plans created by man.
Our minds become magnetized with the dominating thoughts we hold in our minds and these magnets attract to us the forces, the people, the circumstances of life which harmonize with the nature of our dominating thoughts.
First comes thought; then organization of that thought, into ideas and plans; then transformation of those plans into reality. The beginning, as you will observe, is in your imagination.
Capability means imagination…
All the breaks you need in life wait within your imagination, Imagination is the workshop of your mind, capable of turning mind energy into accomplishment and wealth.
If you want a quality, act as if you already had it. Try the “as if” technique.
Were it not for imagination a man would be as happy in arms of a chambermaid as of a duchess.
Imagination is the eye of the soul.
All the works of man have their origin in creative fantasy. What right have we then to depreciate imagination.
Without this playing with fantasy no creative work has ever yet come to birth. The debt we owe to the play of the imagination is incalculable.
My imagination is a monastery and I am its monk.
The opportunities of man are limited only by his imagination. But so few have imagination that there are ten thousand fiddlers to one composer.
Our imagination is the only limit to what we can hope to have in the future.
Soft focus is an important skill that can effect us metaphorically. In other words, the way we see the future has everything to do with how well we can look up and see the expanded horizon before us.
We are told never to cross a bridge till we come to it, but this world is owned by men who have crossed bridges in their imagination far ahead of the crowd.
Reality leaves a lot to the imagination.
Some people have just enough imagination to spoil their judgment.
Begin to imagine what the desirable outcome would be like. Go over these mental pictures and delineate details and refinements. Play them over and over to yourself.
Study the situation thoroughly, go over in your imagination the various courses of action possible to you and the consequences which can and may follow from each course. Pick out the course which gives the most promise and go ahead.
When you see a thing clearly in your mind, your creative success mechanism within you takes over and does the job much better than you could do it by conscious effort or willpower.
For imagination sets the goal picture which our automatic mechanism works on. We act, or fail to act, not because of will, as is so commonly believed, but because of imagination.
Thus man of all creatures is more than a creature, he is also a creator. Man alone can direct his success mechanism by the use of imagination, or imaging ability.
Imagination grows by exercise, and contrary to common belief, is more powerful in the mature than in the young.
We have been endowed with the capacity and the power to create desirable pictures within and to find them automatically in the outer world of our environment.
It is impossible to imagine the universe run by a wise, just and omnipotent God, but it is quite easy to imagine it run by a board of gods. If such a board actually exists it operates precisely like the board of a corporation that is losing money.
If you close your eyes, you could just as well imagine me to be vintage
The most dire disaster in love is the death of imagination.
Imagination is the voice of daring. If there is anything Godlike about God it is that. He dared to imagine everything.
You must first clearly see a thing in your mind before you can do it.
The genius of Man in our time has gone into jet-propulsion, atom-splitting, penicillin-curing, etc. There is none more important thanor works of imagination; of spiritual insight or mystical enlightenment. I asked for bread and was given a tranquilizer. It is important to recognize that in our time man has not written one word, thought one thought, put two notes or two bricks together, splashed color on to canvas or concrete into space, in a manner which will be of any conceivable imaginative interest to posterity.
What was once called the objective world is a sort of Rorschach ink blot, into which each culture, each system of science and religion, each type of personality, reads a meaning only remotely derived from the shape and color of the blot itself.
Imagination, the supreme delight of the immortal and the immature, should be limited. In order to enjoy life, we should not enjoy it too much.
A man may imagine things that are false, but he can only understand things that are true, for if the things be false, the apprehension of them is not understanding.
What we call reality is an agreement that people have arrived at to make life more livable.
There are no facts, only interpretations.
I never hit a shot, not even in practice, without having a very sharp, in-focus picture of it in my head. First I see the ball where I want it to finish, nice and white and sitting up high on the bright green grass. Then the scene quickly changes, and I see the ball going there: its path, trajectory, and shape, even its behavior on landing. Then there is a sort of fade-out, and the next scene shows me making the kind of swing that will turn the previous images into reality.
It takes as much imagination to create debt as to create income.
Imagination decides everything.
Imagination disposes of everything; it creates beauty, justice, and happiness, which is everything in this world.
It is not that the child lives in a world of imagination, but that the child within us survives and starts into life only at rare moments of recollection, which makes us believe, and it is not true, that, as children, we were imaginative?
Celebrate what you want to see more of.
Everything you can imagine is real.
It will be found, in fact, that the ingenious are always fanciful, and the truly imaginative never otherwise than analytic.
It is more than likely that the brain itself is, in origin and development, only a sort of great clot of genital fluid held in suspense or reserved. This hypothesis would explain the enormous content of the brain as a maker or presenter of images.
Often it is just lack of imagination that keeps a man from suffering very much.
All the mind’s activity is easy if it is not subjected to reality.
There is a fine line between dreams and reality, it’s up to you to draw it.
The imagination equips us to perceive reality when it is not fully materialized.
Imagination is eminently a wearable faculty, eminently delicate, and incapable of bearing fatigue; so that if we give it too many objects at a time to employ itself upon, or very grand ones for a long time together, it fails under the effort, becomes jaded, exactly as the limbs do by bodily fatigue, and incapable of answering any farther appeal till it has had rest.
The imagination is never governed, it is always the ruling and divine power,
Imaginary evils soon become real ones by indulging our reflections on them.
An unimaginative person can neither be reverent or kind.
The imagination is the spur of delights… all depends upon it, it is the mainspring of everything; now, is it not by means of the imagination one knows joy? Is it not of the imagination that the sharpest pleasures arise? Sade, Marquis De
How delightful are the pleasures of the imagination! In those delectable moments, the whole world is ours; not a single creature resists us, we devastate the world, we repopulate it with new objects which, in turn, we immolate. The means that every crime is ours, and we employ them all, we multiply the horror a hundredfold.
Let your imagination release your imprisoned possibilities.
The entrepreneur is essentially a visualizer and an actualizer. He can visualize something, and when visualizes it he sees exactly how to make it happen.
Imagination… its limits are only those of the mind itself.
Imagination is the beginning of creation. You imagine what you desire; you will what you imagine; and at last you create what you will.
People often get their imagination’s mixed up with their memories.
The great instrument of moral good is the imagination.
When you think something, you think in picture. You don’t think a thought in words. You think a picture that expresses your thought. Working with this picture will produce it into your experience.
To regard the imagination as metaphysics is to think of it as part of life, and to think of it as part of life is to realize the extent of artifice. We live in the mind.
The imagination is man’s power over nature.
By visualizing your goals, you can get your subconscious to work toward making these mental pictures come true.
Before I put a sketch on paper, the whole idea is worked out mentally. In my mind I change the construction, make improvements, and even operate the device. Without ever having drawn a sketch I can give the measurements of all parts to workmen, and when completed all these parts will fit, just as certainly as though I had made the actual drawings. It is immaterial to me whether I run my machine in my mind or test it in my shop. The inventions I have conceived in this way have always worked. In thirty years there has not been a single exception. My first electric motor, the vacuum wireless light, my turbine engine and many other devices have all been developed in exactly this way.
I do not know how to distinguish between our waking life and a dream. Are we not always living the life that we imagine we are?
It is usually the imagination that is wounded first, rather than the heart; it being much more sensitive.
We can gradually grow into any condition we desire, provided we first make ourselves in habitual mental attitude the person who corresponds to those conditions.
You cannot depend on your judgments when your imagination is out of focus.
Listening to both sides of a story will convince you that there is more to a story than both sides.
You must pre-live the future… not re-live the past… and savor the moment.
Imagination gallops; judgment merely walks.
If you clearly and vividly IMAGINE yourself in the first person doing, being, having the things and qualities you truly want… then you will be using positive imagination to begin a change to fulfilling that image.
Living starts with a picture held in the imagination, of what you would like to do or be.
How do we know that the sky is not green and we are all color-blind?
Okay, who put a “stop payment” on my reality check?
Imagination is the pontoon bridge making way for the timid feet of reason.
Reality bites… and doesn’t let go.
One bright day in the middle of night two dead boys rose to fight. Back to back they faced each other, drew their swords and shot one another. A deaf policeman heard the noise, and saved the lives of the two dead boys. If you don’t believe this lie is true, ask the blind man, he saw it too. Unknown
It is important to rely on your imagination for your sense of humor and your memory for your truths. Not the other way around.
Anyone who thinks the sky is the limit, has limited imagination.
Anything one man can imagine, other men can make real.
Perhaps in a book review it is not out of place to note that the safety of the state depends on cultivating the imagination.
I believe that there never was a creator of a philosophical system who did not confess at the end of his life that he had wasted his time. It must be admitted that the inventors of the mechanical arts have been much more useful to men that the inventors of syllogisms. He who imagined a ship towers considerably above him who imagined innate ideas.
We are what we imagine ourselves to be.
What is reality anyway! It’s nothing but a collective hunch.
Reality is the leading cause of stress amongst those in touch with it.
Understand that you, yourself, are no more than the composite picture of all your thoughts and actions. In your relationships with others, remember the basic and critically important rule: If you want to be loved, be lovable. If you want respect, set a respectable example!
You have all the reason in the world to achieve your grandest dreams. Imagination plus innovation equals realization.
If you can imagine it, you can achieve it; if you can dream it, you can become it.
Imagination is always the fabric of social life and the dynamic of history. The influence of real needs and compulsions, of real interests and materials, is indirect because the crowd is never conscious of it.
Imagination and fiction make up more than three quarters of our life.
Imagination is a quality given a man to compensate him for what he is not, and a sense of humor was provided to console him for what he is.
Fiction reveals truths that reality obscures.
What you see is what you get.
Mis-imagination is your only fault, sin, crime or mistake. Your anxiety contains a life-saving message you must examine in order to discover the true meaning and power of the god-power within, your imagination.
In the Bible, the word imagination is used 21 times, and always preceded by the word “evil” but nowhere in the Bible does it say that imagination is evil. The only thing evil about imagination is its mis-use. The whole world comes into being by imagination, how can it be anything less than the source of the Infinite Good?
An idea is salvation by imagination.
Every time I close the door on reality it comes in through the windows.
First have being in your mind. Make real in your mind then bring that being into reality. The genius is he who sees what is not yet and causes it to come to be.
The Chinese pianist Liu Chi Kung was imprisoned for seven years during the Cultural Revolution, during which time he had no access to a piano. When he returned to giving concerts again after he was released, his playing was better than ever. Asked how this was possible since he had not practice for seven years, he replied: I did practice, every day. I rehearsed every piece I had ever played, note by note, in my mind.
The Matrix is the programmed world we think we
The Matrix is what we call reality.
The Matrix is what scripture calls “the world”
The Matrix is our 3-D world of time, space and
The Matrix is the illusory holographic world we
The Matrix is the source of our imagined
The Matrix is what we believe to be the cause of all
The Matrix is the dream which we imagine to be
The Matrix is the daily nightmare from which we
“We are never upset for the reason that we think”
We are blind, deaf and dumb due to the Matrix.
The Matrix is the father and mother of our
The Matrix is our own fear-based creation,
The Matrix is our “thoughts become things.”
The Matrix is all of our self-programmed thoughts
The Matrix is a blatant denial of the one real
Only you made your Matrix, and only you can undo it.
Your only real calling in this world is to crack the
The entire universe is rigged to assist you in this
The Matrix is just a false symbol of the real
The Matrix is the belief system which seems to make
The Matrix is the basis of all of your mis-diagnoses
The Matrix disguises the truth of the Infinite Good
The Matrix loves our preoccupation (ZZZZzzzzzz) with
The Matrix tells us that we are bodies, minds and
Jesus Christ and the great avatars opened a door
For further discussions on the Matrix movies, see http://www.matrix-explained.com/ and other websites.
Formula for Awakening and Enlightenment
- Give 100% in all that you do. The ego is never total, is always self-protective, divided and resistant
- Expect nothing. The ego has an entire agenda of expectations, demands and “deals”
- Appreciate everything. The ego can only appreciate what secures and enhances its story
- Leave the results to God and the universe. The ego only trusts itself and pretends to depend on God
Have You Ever Dared to Imagine
…that everything that has ever happened to you is designed exquisitely for your benefit?
…that everything is Infinitity in form?
…that God is all there is?
…that all of your troubles arise from mis-imagination?
…that when you rub someone’s back, you are serving the God in that body?
…that when you change a diaper, you are honoring the Infinite in that baby?
…that when you curse someone, you are cursing everyone?
…that when you bless anyone, you are blessing everyone?
…that when you think belittling thoughts, you are belittling yourself?
…that when you fix someone’s car, you are enabling God to travel in form?
…that when you carry out the garbage, you are cleaning God’s house?
…that when you make a phone call, you are talking to the divine?
…that when a salesperson calls, you are hearing God’s voice?
…that when you see a cripple, you are seeing the Unlimited One in form?
…that when you say “fuck you!” you are attacking yourself?
…that when you touch a lover’s body, you are touching the divine?
…that when you hit someone, you are punishing yourself?
…that when you say “Yes!” you are affirming Infinite Love?
…that when you complain, you are pretending God is not present and is not suffering also?
…that when you criticize, you are pretending that perfection is not present?
…that when you forget, God remembers?
…that when you are in a hurry, Eternity is right here right now?
…that Home is wherever you are?
…that stupidity is just forgetfulness?
…that boredom is simply unawareness?
…that war is just an inner conflict with yourself?
…that there is nothing to lose and nothing to gain?
…that control of the Good is not necessary or possible?
…that victims do not exist except in our psychodramas?
…that you are a spiritual being forever?
…that Christ is always being reborn in us?
…that every curse word is ignorance of the Infinite Within?
…that God is your servant and you are the servant of mankind?
…that peace, silence and relaxation is the deepest place in your being?
…that joy is your forgotten nature?
…that the world is your oyster?
…that you cannot fail?
…that forgiveness is just waking up from your victim story?
…that nothing but the Infinite is guaranteed?
…that contrasting and changing form is God’s recreation?
…that insecurity is a myth?
…that you are a forgetful human god with unlimited love and power?
…that fear-based thinking is your only enemy?
…that all of your pains and symptoms are gifts?
…that all of your addictions are just your blind search for the Infinite within?
…that death is a mirage?
…that the mirror of the world is an exact image of your thoughts?
…that imagination is where you are joined with the Infinite?
…that Jesus discovered the “hidden man of the heart”?
…that the Christ archetype is growing in you day by day?
…that the outer treasure you seek is within?
…that God lives in each and every body?
…that your birthday is another birthday of God?
…that when you feel abused, you are believing victimization can occur?
…that time and space are just props for this magnificent drama?
…that nothing exists outside of the Infinite and that you are Infinite?
…that your purpose on this planet is awareness, awakening and healing?
…that the power of healing is hidden inside of you?
…that you are the Light of the World?
…that nothing can harm you?
…that light is your nature and en-lightenment is your destiny?
…that you are already joined with others in spiritual awareness, although not in the ego story?
…that your only enemy can be within?
…that forgiveness restores your sanity and your health?
…that every meeting with every person contains an opportunity for your growth?
…that there are no mistakes, accidents or coincidences in this spiritual life we are living?
…that this universe is an intelligent, compassionate and caring process of self-discovery?
…that infinite life force flows through you constantly unless you repress it?
…that you attract every experience you have for a reason?
…that responsibiility is power?
…that there is no separation, no lack and no entrapment except in your story?
…that you know everything except what you have repressed?
…that you are Imagination Unlimited?
…that this website was created for you?
25 Infinite Imagination Therapy Thechniques
It is my intention to develop 25 chapters on this website outlining the chief techniques of spiritual psychotherapy, with supporting case material. These techniques can be used by professional therapists or by students and patients as well. At this time I shall just list them, although you can find scattered references already to these techniques throughout this website. (For those who are interested, you may sign up for the Infinite Imagination Newsletter to receive an explanation of these techniques as they become available).
1. The Re-Framing or Reverse Format Technique
2. The Great Fiery Furnace Technique
3. The Door Technique
4. The Oracle Technique
5..The Journey to the Sun Technique
6. The Work Technique
7. The Re-visioning Technique
8. The Symptom De-Coding Technique
9. The Gratitude Technique
10. The Jesus Dialogue Technique
11. The Five Languages of Love Technique
12. The “Suppose You Were God” Technique
13. The “If I Had Infinite Courage” Technique
14. The Mountain Climbing Technique
15. The Four Questions Technique for Couples
16. The Conflict Locater Technique
17. Dis-Creation Techniques
18. The Reincarnation Technique
19. The Heart Technique
20. The Three Circles Technique
21. The ABC Technique
22. The Inner Journey Technique
23. The Breath of the Spirit Technique
24. The Manifestation Technique
25. The Un-Doing (Forgiveness) Technique
The Magic Mirror Technique
Marriage counseling is one of those places where people can get healing from their broken dreams by restructuring the story behind the dreams. The Magic Formula Technique is one of the twenty-five transformation methods I have discussed in this website to restructure your story.
- The Magic Formula says that when there is a conflict between two people, the aware person will be able to say to himself that what my partner and I have in common right now is (1) our anxiety, and (2) that we are both lovers, that we both care. The aware person is able to look into the mirror of his own mind and realize that people get anxious when their differing stories seem to separate them,but she also realizes that people more basically care because love is the unifying truth of who they are. The antagonisms between people begin to melt away when one of the partners is aware of their common ground of both anxiety and caring.
- The aware person can say “My partner and I are anxious and defensive in our appearance and behavior, but my partner and I are peaceful and loving in our reality and truth.” The unaware person says “I am hurt; and she is mean. I am upset and he is distant. I jealous and she doesn’t care. I try and he ignores me. He is abusive and I am a victim.” These kinds of thoughts arise from our story of who we are, creating barriers and alienation, which are symptomatic signs of our unawareness and self-deceit. The truth is that when there are arguments, both people are being overwhelmed and controlled by their stories. True commuication cannot occur between people as long as inner communication in the individual is not occurring. Unawareness keeps people from seeing their common ground. On the surface people appear to be polarized and alienated, which is called the personna, the personality, the appearance, but if you go deep enough, beyond the superficial, you will find connection, similarities, common ground, oneness, and you will understand that stories appear to “separated” people. Stories generate anxiety. Stories take us away from who we are.
- When the story of separation is being experienced, when the story of lack is being experienced, when the story of entrapment is being experienced, then we will have anxiety, and we will suffer from the effects of stress and loneliness.
- A person loves as much as their story will permit.
- A person is as free as their story will permit.
- A person is as powerful as their story will permit.
- A person is as creative as their story will permit.
The main cause of divorce is marriage to our story, the identification with our story, and the failure to recognize our true identity.
The Magic Formula is a technique by which we can become more aware. Identification with our story is a state of unawareness. The truth is that neither person is right insofar as each person is unaware of his story and that each person is right insofar as he is aware of his story. Each person is guilty insofar as he believes the lie about himself, and innocent insofar as he didn’t realize this lie. Guilt has a hold upon us because we blame others for our own self-deceit, but guilt is an illusion insofar as we “know not what we do.”
The state of conflict, the state of war, exists in each person’s mind, between his story about himself and the truth about himself. Every thought and every word I utter is about myself, about myself only. I have no objectivity about anyone else. My story prevents that objectivity. When I judge another, I think I am judging another, but actually all judgments are about myself. Every judgment I ever made about anything was about myself. And every idol I ever worshipped, every good quality I ever saw in the world, are my good qualities, just like all the bad qualities. These qualities are subjectified and twisted.
And so when you apply the Magic Formula to your own self, which is all that you can possibly do, you will be able to re-own and assimilate the projections you have made upon the other. If you are saying “My partner is mean” look at your own mean thinking. If you are saying “My partner is selfish” look at your own thinking about selfishness. If you think your partner is overweight or beautiful, look at your own heavy or beautiful thinking. If you think someone is brilliant or stupid, look at your own thinking about brilliance and stupidity. If you think your partner is right or wrong, look at your own thinking about rightness or wrongness, or else you will mis-communicate and harm your relationship. If you do not own your projections, your story will continue to control you, and you will feel like a victim of someone or something, and when you feel like a victim, you will try to control that which you think is in control of you.
How often do we find ourselves saying:
He drinks, and I am self-disciplined
She spends and I scrimp
I work and he plays
I’m clean and she is sloppy
I’m sociable and he’s a loner
I face problems, and she avoids them
I’m sexy and she is cold
I have feelings and he doesn’t
I have rules for the kids and he indulges them
And so, look in the Magic Mirror, and take note of what you see. Your partner is your Magic Mirror, here to bring you the greatest gift of all, the knowledge of yourself. The good, the bad and the ugly all belong to you, and only when you own them all, are you free.
Your partner will play the role of the good guy or the bad guy, so that you can look into the mirror and see your story. And so the Magic Formula is actually a Magic Mirror. When you look into this mirror and you see a frown upon the face of your partner there, you will sooner or later realize that it is your own frown that you are looking at. This projection, this mirror experience, comes from the power of imagination, as it is projected through the lens of our beliefs. Thus without knowing it, we create what we don’t want, and in that respect we are our own worst enemy, our only enemy. To “love your enemy” is thus our greatest opportunity, because as Pogo said “The enemy is us.” The story gives form and shape to the imagination. Through the all-powerful imagination, we are projecting forth into the mirror of the world all of the good and bad, all of the hate and love, all of the self and other, that is possible to experience. Our story creates our symptoms and our symptoms are our story, both of which point to the Infinite.
The Biggest and Best Crutch
- Carol explained her story in these words: life is a problem, human beings need a crutch and God is the biggest and best crutch that we know of, so why am I doubtful about God? I commented that Karl Marx had explained the same view when he said that God is an opiate for the people. I asked her why she didn’t believe that God is the biggest and best crutch, and she said because God is too good to be true. It is too easy, too simple. Since she was 18, she couldn’t trust God any more since her boyfriend was killed in an accident. Even before that she had felt abandoned when her mother had a mental breakdown and was hospitalized. In college, Carol had an affair with her married music professor, and later married his son. This relationship lasted only a year.
- She had a couple of other relationships with married men, but these relationships were also quite a mixture of tasting what she wanted and losing what she had tasted. The experience of abandonment and loss were a very recurrent and persistent theme in her story. Her story goes like this: I search, I find, I depend, I lose. In her current situation, she met a man who had been in a terrible accident and was disfigured, but he had a good heart, and so she married him, although she was not in love with him. I suspect that she felt she wouldn’t lose him since she would be his caretaker, that he needed her. But he had been a very proud, macho, physical speciman until his accident when he lost his “strong man” self image and his good looks. He had many plastic surgeries, and became depressed, losing his “heart” . She became detached and felt nothing.
- In some of her relationships, including this one, she had been abandoned, and now she is abandoning her husband. The most recent form of her dream is that she will get a divorce and adopt a child. She explained this by saying that at least she won’t lose the child. I won’t be abandoned by the child. Yet she suspects that she could even lose the child as well. I asked her if she had mistrusted herself, abandoned herself. She had sought love, was disillusioned by love, abandoned love, and now dislikes herself even more as the abandoner. She doubts that she has ever liked, trusted and depended on herself to any extent. People tell her to do what she wants, to take care of herself, but she says that is all she has ever done, and the way she did it was by seeking to please others.
I commented that she has a story of an infinite appetite and search for love. I asked her how she could have a desire for something infinite if she is not infinite. She agreed that she has infinite desires, and that she has searched infinitely for love, but she cannot make the leap to the awareness that she is infinite. She said that she just doesn’t know about that. I said that Jesus agreed that we “know not”. We have a story of abandonment because we are unaware of the Infinite. And you can’t trust the biggest and best crutch of them all because it too is a part of the story. She just cannot believe that God is a trustable finite answer to an infinite hunger, and that is what we try to do in our story about God as a crutch. The infinite looking for the infinite seems ridiculous, but it is true. God became man that man might become aware of his infinity.
Our story, in other words, includes the beliefs that we are separate, lacking and trapped and that various outer idols are an answer, a crutch for our dilemma. We search for a lifetime, in acceptable and unacceptable ways, to fill our infinite hunger. We experience frustration, disappointment, abandonment, grief, depression, anger, and disillusionment. We distrust others, god, and ourselves. We experience feeling like the abandoned victim and we experience being the abandoning victimizer. We experience the temporary excitement of being in love and tasting infinite fulfillment. Life changes, we fall back into the pit, and distrust sets in again. And God has permitted all of this to happen, and so God is a crutch that fails too. All of this constitutes our story.
The essence of this recurrent human story is that we are merely finite human beings addictively searching for and often failing to find an infinite solution to our hunger.
Investigate this story. Is it true that we are merely human, that God is a crutch, and that we have failed to find the Infinite? What would I be without this story? This book is the leap that I have taken when I ask this question. Each person must find his own answer.
- Breakthrough into spiritual self-discovery is the objective of Infinity Theory. Breakthrough occurs when an individual does self-inquiry about his or her story. Our story is devised as a way of trying to get what we want in a self-protective manner. Therefore our story is dualistic because it assumes that self and other are antagonists or adversaries. “Self” in this case refers to our story about ourself and “other” refers to our story about the other. This dualism is cast in Black and White characterizations, stereotypes and scenarios. Both stories contain a grain of truth, but a handfull of illusions. The handfull of truth in each story is our anxiety and caring. Each story contains “dreams” and “broken dreams.” Dreams point to our caring; broken dreams to our anxiety. When we are able and willing to be honest with ourselves, we look for our common bond with the other in both anxiety and caring, in both dreams and broken dreams. Common ground means community, community means communing, communing means connecting, connecting means one spiritual source, and the result is communication.
Marriage is a place of dreams and broken dreams which becomes a laboratory or school for spiritual self-discovery. Self-discovery is a breakthrough experience. Spiritual self-discovery is what we realize when we use the Magic Formula and play win/win in all of our relationships. Every experience we ever had, pleasurable and painful, up until now, is preparing us for Breakthrough.
Christine and her 18 year old daughter were fighting every morning about their dogs. Christine offered to “compromise” so that both of them could have what they wanted, and it went smoothly, without a wrinkle. She had finally listened to her daughter and understood. No one lost anything, both won. The next day the daughter came home and did the dishes and cleaned the bathroom without being asked. The mother felt so good.
One couple is beginning to detect that when they differ, each experiences anxiety. Everyone is anxious due to their story. Look into self and see if you are anxious. While the husband had moved out, another of the children brought home a dog and a cat. And a second child, who had been wanting a cat, also was allowed to get one. The mother made an agreement with both girls about the care of the animals. The mother said she was not anxious about her decision until she talked with the husband about it. She expected him to be negative about her decision. I guessed that she was anxious before she told her husband and she said she had not been aware of it. After we worked this through we realized that the husband was probably 70% against the children having animals in the house and 30% in favor of it, and the wife had been vice-versa, but the husband had taken the Black position of 100% against it and the wife the White position of 100% for it. Truthfully, each loved and feared the idea. When they found this common ground, solving the problem was easy.
- My deepest and most persisitent lifelong goal has been to be a therapist. Even though I was a therapist by profession all along, I did not feel that I was healed or healing in the way that I wanted to be. Now, forty-five years after I got my Ph.D. and began my practice, I still want to be a therapist. Now I realize how paradoxical it is to be and to want to be an Infinity Therapist.
Infinity Therapy? How ridiculous can you get? We have tried to embrace the paradox that God is everything. How can God need healing? And yet, even though God is infinite and perfect, God is also finite and imperfect. God is the dreamer and the dream, the story-teller and the story. At the same time God is the healer of broken dreams and mis-guided stories. God has always been the perfect therapist and the therapist who is becoming more perfect. What if God was wearing the face of Freud when he realized that religion is regression to an infantile state, and what if God was Jung when he wrote about the similarity of God and the Self, and what if God was speaking through the voice of Neitzsche when he announced that God is dead, and what if God was acting as Karl Marx when he said that religion is the opiate of the people, and what if God was the scientist in Einstein when he found out that time is finite, and what if God and Abraham Maslow researched the divine potential in human nature, and what if God was peering into the microscope of Candice Pert when she found out that every blood cell and receptor in the human body is intelligent and purposeful, and what if God is telling His story in Byron Katie’s love of reality?
What if God is the self-realization process which is going on between the therapist and the patient, between the teacher and the student, between the defendant and the jury, between the rapist and the victim, between your symptom and the truth behind your story? How can the human mind contain such absolute paradoxes? The truth is that it cannot, and that pushes us to the realization that the human mind is a misnomer and does not exist per se. I saw an old quip the other day: “Surgeons re-set broken bones, God heals them.” Therapists, likewise, re-frame broken stories, God heals them.
I don’t need to get into the anachronism of trying to figure out whether I am the healer or whether God is, nor whether God makes mistakes or fixes them. All that I can say is that suffering appears and healing occurs.
I have been taught by Healing Itself just like you have. There are healing schools and there are supervising therapists and there are mistakes and corrections in therapeutic techniques and processes. There are doctors and there are patients. There are teachers and there are students. And yet, there is only the self-realization process which is always going on. This self-realization process has thousands of names, start-ups and setbacks.
The first important thing that I try to convey to my “patients”, my self-realization partners, is about the context of therapy, which is that we are perfect and that we know everything, and that this therapy experience is provided for us to re-member. I am not here to fix you. Everything that has ever happened to you up to this moment has been necessary for the questions that you are asking right now. There is not one meaningless moment of waste, failure and suffering. I remind them that God’s promise to Joel is God’s promise to us: “I will restore to you all that the locusts have eaten.” Troy will be un-burned.
History can be reversed. History is just your story about what things mean. History is not written in stone. Every history book is the author’s story about his world. Past and future do not exist except in our story. When you really understand what has happened to you, all of the pain will be gone. We experience forgiveness and forgetting at the same divine moment of self-realization. “Know thyself” said the ancients. If we knew ouselves, we would not be sitting here addressing the question of symptoms and healing. A person comes to therapy to fix some problem, not realizing that all problems are part of his or her story of fictional identity. We are not here to be fixed within our story, but to be healed ofour story.
All therapy begins with the meaning of the symptom. It is some symptom that has brought you here to this moment of crisis and pain. We want to erase this symptom (depression, anxiety, illness, relationship conflict, etc) and return to our same old story of seeking happiness and success. We blame this annoying and embarassing symptom on someone or something else, usually on God or whoever or whatever is god to us. The symptom which has become our curse now has to be recognized as our blessing. The symptom which is taken to be a fault or a flaw, now has to be embraced as a signal of our potential and perfection. The symptom which was so painful, now becomes medicine.
The symptom which was a signal of what’s wrong with us now becomes a signal of what is right deep within us. The symptom which was a stranger and an enemy now becomes a friend. That which needed healing now becomes a channel of healing. And what is this symptom’s meaning? To answer that is the essence of your healing process and can only be revealed to you and in you. I can only tell you that this symptom that you are now addressing is part of the Big Picture of self-realization waiting to unfold through the story you have been telling yourself all of your life.
Several years ago I saw a movie named The Creator, but I “forgot” the title because I could only remember that it was about the Big Picture. Last night I “accidentally” tuned into a replay of this movie on television, and immediately I realized that it is important for Infinity Therapy. Go and rent the movie and try to detect its message for your self-realization process. I will only say that the Professor’s story was the symptom which held him back from life and yet it was paradoxically the channel through which he found the Big Picture itself.
The second point to be realized in Infinity Therapy is that the only thing holding you back is your identification with your story or strategy for survival. You are anxious and defensive because you think that you are your story about who you are. You are therefore responsible for all of your pain and pleasure. You are king of your universe. Nothing happens which you do not create or permit. Your entire experience is your unconscious projection of your story upon the screen of the universe. You wrote the script for this play and for all of the actors in it, for your own self-realization. Isn’t that a crock? Why would I write such a circumlocutious frustrating story? I cannot believe that I made myself such a pityful victim or such a mean-spirited villan, but I did.
We have all de-throned ourselves, weakened ourselves, given away our responsibility and power to “them” . But it doesn’t matter, it can’t be done. You cannot give away your power in actuality, only in fantasy. Your self-defeating story isn’t working and you have at least one symptom to prove it. You probably have dozens of them just waiting to be recognized and owned. How can Infinity fail? How can Infinity suffer? Only through self-deceit and self-trickery. Only through a story. Your story about yourself and the world is your only problem and it is, paradoxically, the key to your self-healing and the channel through which self-realzation comes.
Every single belief in this story is questioned once you begin the healing process consciously. The process has always been going on, but not necessarily consciously. We have been fighting ourselves all along. Now we can begin to see what that struggle means and how to use it for self-realization consciously. Infinity is your nature and finitude is your story about Infinity. Our finite story hides Infinity. As we have said earlier, every finite thing either conceals or reveals the Infinite; every finite story experience either conceals or reveals the Infinite truth.
The therapist can relax. His patients will come and go. Some patients are not ready to let go of their addiction to their story, and that is okay. But all the therapist needs is one hour. In that initial hour he supports and challenges the patient in their story. He helps the patient to see that he created his symptom and that it has ultimate positive meaning for his life. The patient still thinks that responsibility is dangerous, self-weakening and self-punishing. He may not be ready to see that responsibility is his friend and his power, that responsibility is his denied and hidden Infinity. He may not be ready to realize that responsibility involves a trusting and letting go of control. He may not be ready to grasp that his symptom is the door to his self-realization. And that is okay because self-realization is inevitable; self-realization is reality. Our mis-guided story, our self-ignorance, is always teetering and tottering.
Each succeeding session of spiritual psychotherapy is similar to the first session. You listen for the revised story and you look for its next symptom, you inquire about the meaning of the symptom again, and you join with the patient in the self-realization process. Every session is a revelation to the therapist about the Infinite Potential of human nature and our built-in resistances to this revelation.
Psychotherapy is not just sharing human misery. Psychotherapy is seeing that the creator of the story is more important and powerful than the story we are continually creating.
Psychotherapy is realizing that we have constricted our Infinite Potential through our story, and that we can be released from the grip of that resistance through inquiry about the story. Is it true that I am what I am telling myself that I am? Is it true that you are what I am telling myself you are? Only I can answer those questions for myself. Psychotherapy is a context in which those questions can be asked directly and openly. Life itself is the greater context in which those are the questions not being asked. Why? Because we assume we are what we think we are, and that others are what we have judged them to be, and that God and the world is what we have imagined. End of story.
Typically, psychotherapy is the attempt to fix a problem within the story of the therapist and the patient. Traditional psychotherapy does not challenge the story itself. Spiritual Psychotherapy begins with the assumption that the story itself is the problem. Spiritual Psychotherapy takes place wherever conscious people are willing to begin awakening from the story. Sometimes people drop out of therapy, but you can’t drop out of therapy within the story. It’s not possible. You can’t even drop out of life. We have been trying to drop out of school, drop out of the job market, drop out of marriage, take a slow boat to China, retire. If we try to become a drop-out within the story, we will not be able to do it. To become a Real Drop-out, drop out of the story about yourself. You can seek healing in the story, you can work on yourself in the story, but outside the story, there is only wholeness. There is no work and no healing necessary.
And so, the professional psychotherapist is in a peculiar paradoxical position. He provides a service, collects fees, makes diagnoses, writes evaluations to insurance companies, gives testimonies in court, struggles with suicidal teenagers and divorcing couples, while at the same time he must be aware that all of these symptoms are signals of the forgotten infinity and perfection of these people. Healing is his unnecessary and transitional work. Ultimately he will fail to rescue these victims, because in truth there are no victims, and in that failure he will succeed. Resurrection follows crucifixion.
I am grateful to the Infinite internet. How could a publisher possibly publish anything as absurd as Infinity Theory when it would certainly challenge his own vested interest stories about his publishing objectives? How could any religion endorse Infinity Theory when it would be a threat to the control elements in its own religious tradition? How could any school of psychotherapy or medicine embrace Infinity Theory when itseems to reverse the traditional concepts of diagnosis and treatment? How could science accept Infinity Theory when it appears to invalidate the very foundations of rational objectivity? I am grateful that the Internet is universalizing and democratizing the flow of information and learning. I chose the internet as the most appropriate media for Infinity Theory discussion and debate.
The Oracle Technique
I listen carefully to my client for one to several hours. Then in an inspirational moment, I summarize and create a narrative about the meaning of their symptom and their suffering. This oracle narrative is uplifting and spell-breaking to the client and to the therapist.
I Lost my Home: A Necessary Lie
- “For the last 12 years I have been unhappy. Ever since I left home at 18, I have been a misplaced alien. I lost my family, my friends, my enjoyment. In Lancaster, I was an insider; in Rockingham, I am an outsider. All I think about night and day is what I lost. I lost dad, I lost Uncle John, and I lost cousin Bill. Every moment that I could shake loose, I went home. I hated all of the time I was not at home. I’m surprised my wife did not divorce me. I even quit jobs and went home. I envied those who were still at home. It is a three and a half hour drive home, but I did it as often as possible.”
Why didn’t you just move back home? “I would have lost my wife and my security. My wife got a good paying secure job and did not want to move back home. She hated living there.
I could have forced the issue earlier before my children were born, and I should have. Now I have three kids, a house, a nice car, and a good income. I can’t leave now, and my wife won’t. It would tear up my kids if I left them. Besides, my father and Uncle Bill no longer have the jobs they once had, and I’m not sure I could support my family at home now. Here I know no one, there I knew everyone and they knew me. No one knows me here. I am trapped here. I lost my home. I guess I will just stay here until my kids are grown and then I will leave my wife and move back home. But I wonder if it will still be a home by then.”
He continued: “I did have one interesting experience this week. Two guys at work have been ignoring and snubbing me for months. They have no respect for me and I feel so uncomfortable when I see them. I decided to just walk up to them and stand there while they were working on their truck. I did. After a while they seemed to warm up and become friendly and now we are on speaking terms. They know me a little and I know them some.”
I said to my client that most of the time people live the story of insiders and outsiders, the story of fear. You probably noticed in Lancaster also that there were insiders and outsiders, but you were an insider there. Now you live in Rockingham and you consider yourself to be an outsider. Your two wo-workers are insiders with each other, and treat you like an outsider that they fear. And you fear them as insiders who have the power to reject you. But in this instance, you broke into their world. You walked up to them and broke down the insider/outsider barrier. You treated them like your dad and Uncle John and cousin Bill. You began to re-establish your home here in Rockingham.
Up until now for the past 12 years, you have not been at home in your body here and now. You have been living in the there and then, living 3 1/2 hours from here and 12 years in the past. You have neglected and rejected yourself. You thought that your selfhood and your happiness depended on where you were and who you were with, on being an insider. You were an outsider to yourself. All of this misery that you have experienced since you were 18 is your symptom and your gift. It all has the purpose of making you aware of how you
have mistreated yourself due to your insider/outsider story.
Suppose that the world is your home, and that your dad, your Uncle John and Cousin Bill is everyone you meet. Suppose they are all insiders and just don’t know it. Suppose that by a change of mind you can walk up to people and break the insider/ousider fear barrier and discover that they are just like you and that they are feeling lost also. Once this discovery is made, you realize that you have lost nothing. You have not wasted the last twelve years. It took whatever it took to discover the truth. You have been living a necessary lie for twelve years. Why was it necessary? Because it happened. Now it is changing because it is changing. You are entering a new stage of awareness. You are discovering that you left home and found home, and that is what everyone has to do. You are right on track, you have not missed one necessary step.
What if all of our discomfort is due to a story of misunderstood freedom, misguided love,
mis-imagined power, and ignored infinity? What if I am an insider suffering with a belief that outsiders exist? What if I am free, but dreaming that I am trapped? What if there is nothing but power, but I am a victim of the story that there is weakness and inadequacy? What if everyone one is a winner, and I am caught up in playing the win/lose game? What if everyone is dad, Uncle John and Cousin Bill and I can only see strangers?
What if the loss, waste, separation, entrapment, and lack that I perceive are all lies? What if I am home and don’t know it? What if the self that I put down or parade before the world is not the true me? What if I am depressing myself with the belief that I am not home, but I am.
Just for today, consider that everyone you meet is you. Consider that the entire universe is your home. Consider that there are no strangers. No aliens. Consider that when you see the difference in your story and yourself, you are home free. Consider that your story, your judgments, your beliefs and your opinions are the source of all of your stress and misery. Consider that you can exchange your lies for the truth just as you exchanged the truth for lies. Consider that you have deceived yourself and that it was a necessary step in self-awareness. Consider that you have worn yourself out struggling against reality and now you have the chance to find out that reality is your best friend. Consider that the only reason you aren’t home here and now, and totally in love, is your story that you are a misplaced alien. You are not misplaced, you are not an alien, you are not homeless. You are just not yourself yet. You are in the universal evolutionary process of self-discovery in which you are moving from alienation to true individuality and oneness.
People attach their security to their story. If you challenge their story, they will defend their story. Everyone dies for their story, and some even kill for their story, for their security- story. Until our story is clearly understood to be the source of our suffering, we will not change or give up our story.
“Our Main Problem is Communication”
A couple consulted me. They married because they had been friends for ten years and had fallen in love. Immediately after their wedding, he moved in with her and her four children and the marriage fell apart. They argued constantly over the discipline of the children and their relationship took a back seat. He says that blood is thicker than water and that it is right that she should put her children first. She agrees and they are stuck. He has left several times due to this dilemma and now they want to reconsider reconciling.
They say that their main problem is poor communication. I discuss the Magic Formula with them. The formula goes like this: when differences and conflicts arise, remind yourself that you care, your partner cares, you are anxious, your partner is anxious. This is the self-reflective aspect of communication. It is inner-communication with yourself which must precede outer-communication with your partner. When any stress arises, confronting your partner is not as important as first confronting yourself with this formula as a question: Do I care right now? Does my partner care right now? Am I anxious right now? Is my partner anxious right now? Only if you can honestly answer “yes” to all four of these questions are you ready to move into outward communication. If you answer “no” to any one of these four questions, you are not able to see clearly and you are not being truthful with yourself and you will mis-communicate. Much of what you say at that point will misfire, and may lead to further conflicts.
Why are these four questions important? Because when you assume that you or your partner (neighbor) doesn’t care, or that you or your neighbor is not anxious, you are denying that the victim-villan story of separation, lack, and entrapment exists in both party’s minds and you are assuming that this story is true, and you are denying that Love is the only Reality.
A. The story of separation, lack and entrapment is present, and it is your only problem, so it does not work to deny that we are anxious. If we deny that we are anxious, we get a more severe symptom. It is always okay to pretend we are not “cool” when we are anxious
B. This villan-victim story is an illusion, confront it. If you confront your story, you will have less confrontations with others. We don’t have to continue pretending that we are merely finite, merely a body. So when you are experiencing anger, stress, or some other symptom, realize that you are experiencing anxiety about your story. You are experiencing anxiety about your belief that you are a body, that you are merely human. Confront your story and admit your anxiety. It is okay to be anxious and it is okay to admit it. If you do not admit it to yourself, you will continue to take the Hero’s Journey under protest, feeling like an alien in an alien world. You will drag yourself every step of the way, and continue your fight against some outside authority who is telling you what to do. Confront your illusory story and then you can take the Hero’s Journey consciously and with grace.
C. Love is present, look for it. Oneness is present, claim it. Freedom is present, enjoy it. Infinity is present, embrace it. Each person you interact with cares all the time, even your spouse. Everyone you have differences with, every enemy you have, is your unconscious lover, your mis-understood friend. That enemy, that stranger, carries the gift of your symptom for you.
D. Love is the only reality, blocked from view only by the fear story, the villan-victim story.
You and I are anxious, every time and all of the time, because of our story; you and I care, in each instance and every instance, because we are not our story. This formula applies to any dyad, to any relationship, whether between partners, parent and child, business associates, neighbors, or even groups.
Everyone has a villan-victim story which contaminates communication by its unconscious presence. It does not help to condemn or condone, to blame or excuse, this story, which only drives it further underground, requiring a more insistent symptom. If I condemn my neighbor’s story or condone mine, I am still stuck because if it is in my mind, it is actually all mine. Any story I have about me or another, about me or the world, about me or nature, about me or god, is about “me” as I see me.
All stories are essentially victim/villan stories and if we pursue the meaning of these stories to their depth, they evaporate under the bright light of truth. If you want to really mine gold, don’t just scratch the surface a couple of inches, where you will find more dirt, but go deeper to where the gold is. You may be able to “pan” a little gold here and there in the streams of life, but for the veins of gold, you must go deeper. Superficiality of judgment won’t get you what your really want. On the surface of yourself and the other, you will mainly find the story and its symptoms. Search deeper. Realize that all relationship and communication problems and addictions are symptoms of our story, and our symptoms are unopened gifts for our self-realization.
I explain to my stressed out couple that we devise a story which implies that someone is not love. We do that for self-protection, but it does not get us what we want. We want self-protection and self-fulfillment and we cannot have both. The woman gasped and said “But we would be so vulnerable!” And I said that is what love seems to be, vulnerability, and that we have to risk coming out of our fortress of being judgmental and right in order to find the fulfillment we want. This formula will help you reduce the notion that you can be attacked and hurt. If fact, you can’t be attacked and hurt by another, only by yourself. This formula helps you to crack through your story that the world is a dangerous place and that you must protect your best interests at all times. If you begin to realize that the world is composed of misguided lovers whose perception and communication is flawed by fear and stress, then you will do not have to be a resister and a controller. Resistance and control cannot deliver you what you want. You are stuck and you blame it on others.
So I ask them to practice the self-reflection formula. I warn them that they will get mixed results at first, that they may slip back into their old story, but that they can quickly recover if they use the four-question formula. I offer to see them again in a week to review their failures and successes in the practice of the formula for inner-awareness and outer-communication. This formula is based upon the awareness that true God-awareness and true self-awareness is love-awareness, and that our story about separation, lack and entrapment is the exact cause of our suffering. This unconscious story keeps us locked into a self-replicating and self-fulfilling prophecy of things that we don’t want to experience. Every frustrating situation then is a gift of good news, of mis-understood love, which is created and sustained by our false story about who we are. Awareness of our conjoint divinity is necessary to crack the grip of our story upon our every thought, feeling and communication.
Am I aware that both my partner and I are anxious right now? If the answer is no, what does that mean? If the answer is yes, what does that mean? Am I aware that both my partner and I care right now? If the answer is no, what does that mean? If the anwer is yes, what does that mean?
Consider the Seven Fearful Responses versus the Seven Caring Response (A summary of Wm. Glasser, by Ellen Michaud)
FEARFUL RESPONSES CARING RESPONSES
Turn Blaming Into Accepting
Turn Bribing Into Encouraging
Turn Complaining Into Listening
Turn Criticizing Into Respecting
Turn Nagging Into Negotiating
Turn Punishing Into Supporting
Turn Threatening Into Trusting
The Human Identity Puzzle
- Finding the Hidden Pictures is a favorite childhood puzzle in various books and magazines. In this puzzling Mystery we call life, adults too have to search for the hidden meaning in the universe of our experiences. In general psychotherapy, the therapist and patient search for the hidden cause for the symptom; in Spiritual Psychotherapy, the therapist and the student seek for the hidden divine potential in the so-called symptom and its so-called causes. Hidden in our story, infinity is everywhere. It takes a special kind of looking called vision to detect the meaning of our experiences. Without this meaning, life is a hopeless maze of confusion, contradiction, limitations, and suffering.
- Human identity is the chief puzzle we must resolve in our lifetime.
Where Shall We Hide the Truth From Man?
“Where shall we hide the truth from man?”
The gods all cried when he was made.
“How can we guard our secret now?”
They asked each other most afraid.
“Hide it in the earth; he will mine it.
Hide it on a mountain; he will climb it.
Even in the sea he will find it.
Where shall we hide the truth from man?”
Quite beside themselves, they cried:
“This little guy will take our throne.
We have made him far too smart
Not to claim our heaven home
Hide it in matter, he’ll analyze it.
Hide it in the water, he’ll crystallize it.
Even in hell, he’ll surmise it.
Where shall we hide the truth from man?”
They thought of stars in outer space
Or in the nature of a tree,
But they knew that man could solve
Each and every mystery.
“Hide it in the wind, he’ll pursue it.
Hide it in an act, he will do it.
Even in an atom, he will view it.
Where shall we hide the truth from man?”
Then they solved the mystery
Of how the frightened gods should win.
The wisest said, “Let’s take the truth
And hide it deep inside of him.
Hide it in his heart, he will doubt it
Hide it in his soul, he’ll live without it
Even if we should reveal and shout it,
He won’t believe the truth is within him.”
- We can decipher this puzzle through (1) the symbols hidden in our story, or (2) through the symptoms hidden in our story. That is our choice. But if we do not find the infinite in our symbols (1) we have no choice but to deal with our symptoms (2)
To unravel the mystery of who you are, it is necessary to find the hidden symbols and symptoms, and learn to re-interpret them. Your story is not a haphazard accidental collage of meaningless events strung together like a bad novel. It really is not like MacBeth moaned: “Life is a tale told by an idiot, full of sound and fury, signifying nothing” unless you remain stuck in your story.
Every incident, accident and symptom in your life has ultimate meaning once you begin to honestly investigate. Even the worst disasters contain hidden messages for your Self-Realization.
Introduction to the Secret Knowledge
Can you keep a secret?
Life is either a Yes or a No
Amateur Gods in Disguise
You coulda fooled me!
I Am a Realist
The medicine of God
Self-Realization: The Supreme Human Value
Really? Who said so?
What in the World are you Looking For?
Don’t ya see?
The Rebirth of Courage
Out of the ashes of timidity, rises the Phoenix of courage
What a list!
This sounds scary!
The Single Cause of Human Suffering and Symptoms
A single cause? There must be a zillion!
The Life Force
Your body is a temple of the living God
The Gift of Anxiety
What Are My Chances for Awakening?
Marital Symptoms:a Path to Spiritual Awakening
Tired of the power struggle?
A Map of Human Consciousness
This is all about me?
Finding You in Spite of Your Story
The story’s about you! Horace
Is it really?
The Seven Steps
The spiritual model includes the psychological model
The Wall of Ignorance
I don’t know
The “Who Am I?” Circles
Let’s get to the core of the matter
Twoness is included in oneness
The Seed of Infinity
Nourish it with awareness!
Love Can Never Be Tamed!
God is love and so are you
Your Two Worlds
Get your foot in the door!
What Can You Trust?
I don’t trust nobody
Trust Not: What is Codependency?
“Don’t trust anyone, not your best friend—not even your wife.” Micah 7:5
Addiction, Belief Analysis and Infinity 2001
You can only be hooked on your story
The Hypnotic State of Mankind
A Patient’s Infinite Bill of Rights
Mediocrity is Impossible
The Beginning Point
An Experimental Hypothesis
Take it for a trial run
It Is Finished!
The Church of Infinite Imagination
A Location in Time and Space
I Doubt It
Night and Day
A million Einsteins?
WHAT IS IMAGINATION?
Can you imagine?
Who is William Blake?
Poet, artist, mystic, philosopher, universal realized man, born in London, 1757, and died in 1827.
Are you tired of the old movies playing in your head?
The Qualifications of Disillusionment Therapy
Who can be a patient?
The Wolf at the Door
Cursing or Blessing: Its Your Choice
As with many other aspects of spiritual psychotherapy, this is a handout for educational purposes. “Educare” (education) in Latin means to “draw out” . What we draw out in this case is an inner understanding of the truth presented from without (through the Scriptures).
He whom thou blessest is blessed, and he whom thou cursest is cursed. Numbers 22:6
Thou shalt not curse the people: for they are blessed. Numbers 22:12
Behold, I set before you this day a blessing and a curse. Deuteronomy 11:26
The LORD thy God turned the curse into a blessing unto thee, because the LORD thy God loved thee. Deuteronomy 23:5
When he heareth the words of this curse, that he bless himself in his heart, saying, I shall have peace, though I walk in the imagination of mine heart. Deuteronomy 29:19
They only consult to cast him down from his excellency. They delight in lies: they bless with their mouth, but they curse inwardly. Psalm 62:4
Let them curse, but bless thou. Psalm 109:28
There is a generation that curseth their father, and doth not bless their mother. Proverbs 30:11
Cursed be the day wherein I was born: let not the day wherein my mother bare me be blessed. Jeremiah 20:14
But I say unto you, Love your enemies, bless them that curse you, do good to them that hate you, and pray for them which despitefully use you, and persecute you. Matthew 5:44
Bless them which persecute you: bless, and curse not. Romans 12:14
Therewith bless we God, even the Father; and therewith curse we men, which are made after the likeness of God. James 3:9
Jesus cursed the fig tree and it died. Mark 11:21
And Peter calling to remembrance saith unto him, Master, behold, the fig tree which thou cursedst is withered away.
And they that had eaten were about five thousand men, beside women and children. Matthew 14:21
I used to wonder why Jesus cursed and killed a fig tree just because there were no figs on it. Now I realize that he was demonstrating how we misuse our spiritual power. We curse and kill every day, unknowlingly. Don’t we discourage and destroy with our negativity? Even voodoo practices demonstrate this. Larry Dossey wrote a whole book on how negative prayer works: Be Careful What You Pray For, You Just Might Get It. (1997)
And then Jesus blessed a little boy’s lunch and 5000 people were fed. Blessing multiplies, just like cursing kills.
On the subject of blessing and cursing, let us begin with three assumptions:
1. The Power of the universe is in you.
2. We use that power every day, knowlingly or not
3. We curse or bless with that power
What are some other words for cursing? (condemn, criticize, put down, belittle, dishonor, disrespect, neglect, avoid, deny, withhold, judge, resist, fear, etc) You only curse what you fear.
What are some other words for blessing ? (respect, honor, love, give, radiate, etc?)
Whatever you bless, blesses you.
Whatever you curse, curses you.
Whatever you deny, denies you
Whatever you harm, harms you
Whatever you love, loves you
Do you fear that people take advantage of your blessing? No one can take advantage of you. You just can’t control other people or their reactions. (See my chapter on the Enlightenment Formula: Do whatever you do 100% and leave the results to God.)
“Whatever is, is good” said St. Augustine. But why? Because it is all good; it is all from God, the All good.
Dr. Royal Rife discovered in his microscope studies that every disease has an energy frequency. Below 50 on the scale is sickening and lowers one’s resistance to disease.
When you bless your food, your car, your house (“Bless This House” the song goes), your body, your thoughts, your family, your enemy, you raise your own energy, and your own healing powers.
The more you bless, the higher your energy rises; the more youcurse (judge, resist, dread, fear and criticize) the lower your energy goes, and more of the same is added unto you.
Please notice that cursing is equivalent to illusions, fear, weakening and sickening, and that blessing is equivalent to miracles, love, strengthening and healing.
Peace be unto you, said the early Christians.
Assignment: Consciously curse or bless this week. When we think or say:
“God damm this” or “God bless that,” we are using the power of God to damm or bless, to weaken or strenthen. Realize that we curse Saddam and he curses us.
I studied the Guiness Book of Records. I noticed that Jesus was not recognized as the champion of consciousness. And we may not have noticed that he said that whatever I do, you can do better! Why? Because he adds his power to ours. When we think, pray and bless “In the Name of Jesus” we are using the power of the champion of consciousness. While his consciousness was clearer, stronger and faster than ours, ours is just as powerful and real, but like an unused muscle, may need use and practice.
We have only three choices each moment: (1) to curse (2) to bless or (3) to forgive. But be aware, you will curse every day, and when you do, cancel it, forgive it. I say “you will curse every day” because we are habitually conditioned to fear, to react, to judge, to belittle, to condemn, to gossip, to resist, and to try to control.
Although you will curse, you can correct that judgment by forgiveness. If you do not forgive, you are stuck with your curse, and you will magnetize unto you exactly what your judgment was against. You don’t like some things that are in your life? You put them there by your judgments, by your “curses” . Take that responsibility, and stop blaming it on others or on circumstances. You are not a victim. You are not a beggar. You are a god in disguise. Wake up!
Make a written list some things you could bless in your life, some things you want to heal, forgive, empower, and transform. Visualize that it is done. The result is up to God.
If the All Good is in everything, we can release that good by the practice of blessing. Everything on the face of the earth contains the seed of divinity. What is in a seed? Within an apple tree seed, there are many seeds, and potentially many apple trees. Blessing is the way you spread, water, and warm the seed. Be a Johnny Appleseed of spiritual and material blessings. Silently spread your gifts through the inner act of blessing. You can spread the seeds of peace, healing, rejuvenation, love, wealth, forgiveness, and joy. These are your apple tree seeds.
Where is My Good?
Pain and the Victim Experience of Hope
Hope springs eternal
“Hell” is our Chief Planetary Delusion
All places shall be hell that are not heaven. -Christopher Marlowe
The Figure 8 Charm
A sign of the finite or the infinite?
THE TWO BASIC SYMPTOMS
The God State
Where is God?
I’d like to believe it!
AMATEUR GODS IN DISGUISE
Know ye not that ye are gods?
I have learned, in whatever state I am in, to be content
What you don’t know can prolong your sense of hurt
The X Factor
What you don’t know can prolong your sense of hurt
I Am In the Center of God
How do you get there?
Suppose it’s all good and we don’t know it?
Suppose it’s all good and we don’t know it?
The 1% Factor
Sharpening our Tools for the Hunt
What are you “hunting” for?
What is actually sick?
What is Fear?
The unreality in our story
What Are We Afraid Of?
Who ever heard of the fear of gravity, barophobia?